| Demands vs. Preferences |
 Demands usually come from the need to be in control or in
charge. Often there is a need to control others
because of a fear that others will control you if you let your guard down. Demands
can be an insistence on ones request or an avoidance of something desired by
another. They are the opposite of empathy and love because the feelings of the other
person are less important than the need to control. Demands can be a major
factor in dysfunctional relationships and often are the underlying cause of
broken relationships. Demands can become addictive because the often seem to work.Happy Marriages and healthy relationships depend on healthy emotions and a willingness to be aware of and consider the feelings of others. Power struggles and control will not result in meaningful relationships. In order to become free of addictive
programming, it is necessary to change the subconscious programming
that triggers the emotion. The subconscious programs consist of a set of thoughts that are
automatically recalled in response to a stimulus. Usually, these thoughts automatically
trigger emotional responses. When these pre-programmed thoughts
are the result of frustrated addictive demands, negative emotions result. |
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