When folks make security, sensation and control the major focus of their lives, they may be happy for a while. However, the needs never seem to be satisfied for a long period of time. When we don't get what we feel we need or want, feelings of insecurity, disappointment, and anger (among other feelings) are certain to develop.

In his book "Creative Happiness," Dr. Botten tells about the major cause of emotions such as: fear, anxiety, shame, guilt, worry, doubt, envy, grief, disgust, discontent, insecurity, frustration, anger, rage, fury, wrath, hostility, irritation, resentment, jealousy, etc. He also tells how to think our way toward love, peace, happiness, closeness, harmony compassion, empathy, intimacy, joy, acceptance, abundance and fulfillment.